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Originally Posted by 3.0L
I don't believe getting one's shit together is a "Yesterday I didn't have my shit together and today I do" event. I think it's a process of life events. Also, I think having our shinola together is relative to our age group.
I kind of had my shinola together by age 22, right after I separated from the Army. My new bride and I moved into a small apartment in a college neighborhood. Compared to the antics and partying of our neighbors, I felt much more mature, even though we were about the same age.
Eleven years later, my dad passed away unexpectedly at the young age of 55. Reality check: My shinola wasn't as together as I thought it was. Overnight, I had to take the helm of our family business. It was very humbling. The learning curve was steep.
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Originally Posted by CTinline-six
My parents were strict when I was growing up so I always kinda had my shit together. I was mowing lawns/working on a farm when I was 10, and saved money to buy my first dirt bike and my first car by myself. I played sports, rode dirt bikes with my friends, but never really partied as I didn't have time. At 16 I got a part-time job after school, and along with sports that took up a lot of my time. I worked two jobs while going to college, and now I work full-time and have a side business. 
I think "having your shit together" is a sliding scale, and many people never really have it together. Everyone has something going on in their life. I know many people who would appear to have their shit together and living the perfect life, but have some very sad mental or physical things that bring them down. |
You both bring up great points. Many might think they have everything figured out, but when you get hit with a life changing event then you really start to understand your position. I might be doing okay now, but if my father passed all of the sudden it would be a complete sh*t show for my family. Even my youngest brother is doing well in comparison to some, at least he is fully self-sustaining at this point.
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Originally Posted by Joekerr
Some days though, instead of having my shit together, it just felt like it was being pushed in. But I think that's everyone. I think you are taking the right tack with your brother, hopefully he finds the motivating force he needs to do something.
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I hope he does as well, like I mentioned I just want him to act on his own accord. Those decisions are the ones that define a person.
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Originally Posted by lsturbointeg
hmmmm...probably when my wife said she will take half my shit  that was 26 years ago  |
Sheesh, I have two months until I tie the knot and you're telling me I have to have my sh*t together by then!? lol