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Originally Posted by JP10
I don't really mind putting in the effort on Valentines Day. Is what it is, if she's happy I'm happy. Although I feel that there would be less pressure/expectation if social media didn't exist. I ended up getting her a gift, and we have reservations downtown for Friday. I know that flowers will put a smile on her face, but debating if I want to blow another $100. The fiance says she doesn't want anything, and we can just stay in and watch a movie. I'm 100% certain that this is a trap. She may say that, hell she may even feel that way, but when she sees her coworkers/family/friends posting shit on FB/instagram/etc that feeling with slowly dwindle. Plus it's on a Friday this year, so we would have probably went out to eat or something anyway.
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Could be a trap, maybe you need to talk to her about that. I frankly hate the peer pressure, it becomes like weddings where you have to measure up to someone else's big day. It really takes the honesty out of it if you think about it. So you go out and try to make the day more special or at least as special as all the other BS Social Media posts.....so is it really about how you feel or keeping up with the Jones'.
I like to use honesty in my relationship. Back in the day, I could see dinner and flowers or what ever for VD. Now, because of the Hallmark pressure it has morphed into some grandiose competition which also sets up the disappointment.
I say show up with flowers and a bottle of wine or champagne every few weeks. Leave a hand written note for no reason and I think you'll have a happier GF/wife and if the whole social media thing matters to her she'll post that up and her friends will envious of her and you'll be the hero.
But what do I know, I'm on my 3rd marriage.....