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      08-28-2015, 08:59 PM   #45
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Pull him aside, tell him to stop. If he continues to do it, then take further actions.
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      08-28-2015, 09:01 PM   #46
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As stated by someone whose wife is an HR person, HR's job isn't to be a playground moderator. I think we all should be grown up enough to at least extend the courtesy to someone to let them know if their behavior or something they said was out of line. People are so quick to run around and report people these days.
+1. I think it's very easy for things to get blown out of proportion by elevating it to a third party, rather than just saying directly how you feel. Yes, some people are idiots. Do you necessarily deserve to lose your job and have a permanent mark on your record because of being an idiot? I generally don't think so.

Additionally, I'm Asian myself, and I think it's up to you to determine how you let someone else make you feel. Should you be forced to listen to these comments day in and day out? No, you should ask them to stop. But I don't think that you should allow someone's moronic sense of humor to make you feel bullied. Those people aren't worth the energy it takes to focus on it and be bothered by it. Just my two cents.
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Oh those bastards are kicking us out again?

Finland is a part of Scandinavia (I'm really rusty with this all so pardon me) because of the ground we share, the thingy that floats on lava (I'm actually proud of that one) but as a culture we are completely different from the others and our language has nothing in common with Swedish or Norwegian or Danish.


Yes, ice hockey and cars is what we do, and men are silent always. In all three we beat all of the Nordic competition offered by our reluctant neighbors.
Finland, home of the greatest sniper in the history of warfare. Guy was like 5'0 and had like 500 or 600 kills during the Finnish Soviet war (WW2). He was fucking up the Red Army so bad during the winter war that they named him the White Death. Dudes name was Simo Hayha. Oh and he got most of his kills with a rifle with just iron sights (no scope) and a submachine-gun.
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      08-28-2015, 09:26 PM   #48
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Finland, home of the greatest sniper in the history of warfare. Guy was like 5'0 and had like 500 or 600 kills during the Finnish Soviet war (WW2). He was fucking up the Red Army so bad during the winter war that they named him the White Death. Dudes name was Simo Hayha. Oh and he got most of his kills with a rifle with just iron sights (no scope) and a submachine-gun.
Not according to Russian history books, they had almost zero casualties in that war.
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How would you know this? Did mommy catch you jerking off to some Big Foot porn ?
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      08-28-2015, 09:32 PM   #49
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How do you encourage someone favorable to sexually harass you?
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      08-28-2015, 09:37 PM   #50
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      08-28-2015, 09:37 PM   #51
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How do you encourage someone favorable to sexually harass you?
Dude if you want me to grope you again in the big garage meet next weekend, just say so.
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      08-28-2015, 09:37 PM   #52
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Not according to Russian history books, they had almost zero casualties in that war.
Yes and there was also no crime in the "workers paradise".
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Yes and there was also no crime in the "workers paradise".
Or corruption. Also, their army is and was fine (estimated percentage of their soldiers having a heroin problem is abt 30%).

Btw, they totally won their war in Afghanistan in a few weeks.
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Dude if you want me to grope you again in the big garage meet next weekend, just say so.
What is next weekend?
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I bend over and pick up my pen
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I bend over and pick up my pen
May work in reverse if I ask said bubblebutt to pick it up for me?
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What is next weekend?
I got an email stating its in September, the griot (or something too hard for my chicken brain) thing is up again.

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I bend over and pick up my pen
Lol, that's so lame, I yawn. Brings assets to show well.

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      08-28-2015, 09:47 PM   #58
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First off, sorry this happened.

You were there so you heard the tone of the person making the comment. It's possible that they are just ignorant and repeated the chicken flied lice comment that they heard elsewhere because it got a laugh. Possibly it just ignorance and not intended to be a racial slur. That said, I would talk to this person one on one and mention that you took offense and ask them to stop. They might just say "OMG, I didn't know. Thanks for letting me know."

Back in the 80's I had a colleague was Japanese. I ignorantly used the term Oriental is some fashion. I don't think I called him an Oriental, but I used the term in some way. He stopped me and politely told me that the term was offensive. I was shocked to know I has unknowingly said something that offended him; it was certainly not my intent. I was so glad he took the time to enlighten me. We have been friends ever since. If he had gone to HR instead it would most likely had a different outcome.

Good luck with this situation.
The word Oriental is interesting. I had one of my frat brothers ask me if I was offended by the word Oriental. I asked why? He ask doesn't it mean something derogatory? I said, I don't know. It doesn't offend me and I never new it was such a bad word.

I guess my disconnection to that word might be due to being natively born in the States. But hanging around my other "ethnic brothers or sisters", we've never had the conversation of Oriental being offensive ever come up.
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I got an email stating its in September, the griot (or something too hard for my chicken brain) thing is up again.



Lol, that's so lame, I yawn. Brings assets to show well.

(my car is in the shop, I'm blaming mental stress for these thee posts)
Okay I didn't get the invite to come down with premiere parking spot like last year.
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Okay I didn't get the invite to come down with premiere parking spot like last year.
You can have mine if you polish my hood!

(my car is a Christmas tree, have mercy on me for being an idiot)
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May work in reverse if I ask said bubblebutt to pick it up for me?
I like role reversal
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Ahhh...being a half Asian person myself- I've been called everything from a mutated chink, the Latino of Asians, gook, mutt, constantly asked "what are you?" etc etc

When I was a kid, I'd cry over it. My mom would always comfort me and tell me

"Sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt you"

I pass on the same message to you
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I like role reversal
Or just role play?
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I had to look up "Chicken flied lice". Never heard it before.

Anyways OP, i would try to talk to the offender before you go to HR. I'm jewish and growing up I took I lot of shit but I either ignored it or confronted the person directly. Never had to resort to a 3rd party
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Best way to resolve situation is to come in on the weekend and piss on your co-workers chair. Next, drop a duce on his keyboard, and to finish it off, cut a hole in the picture of his wife/gf where her mouth is and spooge into the hole and pin it to his computer screen.
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Probably not but I like the effort. There is a few airbags for sale on here or i have several for use. Rig his chair and shoot him thru the roof.
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